The following testimonies are by real women who have acted as surrogates through A Perfect Match. If after reading these testimonials from surrogates you are interested in becoming a surrogate or have further questions about our surrogacy program please email Rose@aperfectmatch.com
Amy: a first-time surrogate who delivered a healthy singleton in May 2009
My son is the greatest joy in my life. I think everyone deserves to experience that. The love for and of a child is the greatest gift in the world and its heartbreaking to know some people are deprived of that gift. It seems so unfair that while some are faced with unwanted pregnancies others who desperately yearn for a child are denied. In my case, it took me four months to get pregnant and each month that first spot of blood of my period arrived I cried. My weeks of hopes were crushed in an instant and I felt a great sense of loss. That sadness was nothing compared to what many parents looking into surrogacy have experienced- years of trying and never conceiving, a medical condition preventing them from conceiving or carrying a child, or miscarriage after miscarriage. The devastation is astounding. My heart goes out to these couples and I want to help them get their dream of a child.
A Perfect Match is the key to fulfilling this dream. They really do have the knowledge and experience to make the perfect match between intended parents and surrogates. Luckily, they knew what situation would work best for me better than I did. I’ve always considered myself a shy person and thought a non local couple might be ideal. That way I could continue my life privately and stay non-emotional about the pregnancy, looking at it as simply a job. I’m so glad A perfect Match (Rose) knew better and told me about a local couple and initiated a phone conference. I expected a nervous and awkward phone conversation- its not your typical situation. I was surprised and thrilled that the intended parents and myself seemed to click immediately and the conversation flowed with ease as if we were already friends. It felt so natural and comfortable. It is great having them close by to come to doctor’s appointments and offer their support so I don’t feel like I’m going through this alone. By forming a relationship with them I feel even more excited about the pregnancy and an even stronger desire for them to have a child. Their being able to be involved in each step of the pregnancy will create an even deeper connection. This is not to say this is how the surrogacy process should go for everyone. There are numerous couples out of state and around the world who need help to have a child too and A Perfect Match will know which surrogate would thrive in that situation. You can trust their judgment in matching you with the best fit for you.
It might sound like a fairy tale ending: a couple struggles and will finally get their child, but I won’t sugar coat things. Of course there are no guarantees. Parents choosing surrogacy are not at the end of their troubles. Parents will still have anxious and emotional times. In my case, I had an embryo transfer and got pregnant. Wonderful, right? Not yet. The first ultrasound showed the fetus might be abnormal and a week later the heart beat was gone. More devastation for the parents after they think they’ve found their answer in a surrogate. Fortunately, we tried again with embryos they had frozen and this time the fetus is progressing perfectly. It still hasn’t been worry free. Complications of bleeding occurred which caused a few weeks of stress and worrying, but this baby isn’t giving up- she is hanging in there to be that special gift for her parents. A Perfect Match (Rose) shares in all these trials and triumphs, accompanying us to appointments and offering sincere compassion and support.
Although surrogates’ intentions are grand, the process is not a walk in the park and we are human and complain. Injection after injection, bed rest, nausea, trouble sleeping, etc. No one said the good things in life came easily and something so worth having is worth the sacrifice. I’ll be honest, there have been times- like when I took my 112th injection or was so nauseous I couldn’t even get up- that I asked myself, “What were you thinking?” Then the moment passes and I realize the big picture and one more injection doesn’t seem so bad. I haven’t delivered yet and I can’t wait to see the baby in the arms of her parents. If you are considering being a surrogate, don’t let the little things scare you. The overall experience and end result are more than worth it and A Perfect Match is with you every step of the way offering reassurance and guidance.
It’s an amazing feeling and honor to know that I will have been a part of the joy of bringing a child into this couples life. I am so grateful that A Perfect Match brought us together.
Daniella: delivered surrogate twins in Jan. 2008 and delivered a singleton in May 2009. She plans to do one final surrogacy in 2010.
I think A Perfect Match is GREAT!!!!!!!! I have no words to express my gratitude. Rose is an amazing woman! She takes great care of all her surrogates. The company is so involved and you never feel like you are alone.
I work with same sex couples. My first time which was March 2007 I was matched with a great couple. I got pregnant with twins and delivered in January 19 2008. The best decision I could was to become a surrogate! I will tell you its not the easiest thing to do but if you are dedicated and really want to do it!! GO FOR IT!!!! You will never regret it!! When you give that child to their parents and they are crying and thanking you that is the BEST FEELING in the world!!! As of of Nov 2008 I’m pregnant with my second surrogacy carrying a singleton. It has been a great journey and all I have to say is thank you Rose and thank you APM!!!
Marci: delivered a singleton in March 2008 and is currently pregnant with a singleton for a sibling cycle with her previous family.
I started looking into surrogacy about 2 years ago when I heard some of my friends talking about it. I knew that I enjoyed being pregnant and had fairly easy pregnancies so I decided to research it a little bit more. After talking to a few women that had been surrogates and checking a few different agencies, I decided that A Perfect Match was the most inviting agency. From the first phone call that I made to them, I was always treated with kindness and no question ever went unanswered. Step by step, they walked me through the process. They really try to get to know you and match you with the right Intended Parents and I never felt that I had to compromise my values or beliefs. One of the greatest things about A Perfect Match is that you feel like you are a part of a “family”. There are monthly group support meetings and an on line support group so you are never alone in the process. There is always someone to talk to or answer your questions.
About a year after I was “matched”, I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy. To see the joy and happiness of this family made this one of the most wonderful gifts that I could have ever given to anyone! It was truly such a great experience that I have started the process again to be a surrogate for the same family!
Like any journey we take in life, there are ups and downs, happy times and sad times. The greatest thing about my journey was that the “ups” far outweighed the “downs”. I am so happy that I could be a part of something that gives people the opportunity to fulfill one of their greatest dreams in life.
Hope: delivered a singleton in January 2009 and will begin her second surrogacy cycle this summer
I recently received my “surrogate wings” to ring in the new year (1/7/09) and I’m already considering to be matched for another cycle. They warn you in the beginning that it is “addictive” and you think, “No way!! Dealing with the changes of your body and hormones..” Well, that WAS me. I caught myself asking, “What in the world was I thinking?” in the beginning and then each trimester ;P – being matched (wanting to find “a perfect match”), being screened (hoping you qualify), starting medication (needles..OMG!!), and then going through the 9 months (getting “fat”) . Honestly, it is scary as a first time surrogate and each step you take, you say to yourself, “there’s no turning back now!” and in the end, you’ll be glad you never did!! That is me NOW! My question, “what in the world was I thinking?” was answered when I saw the smile on my intentional parents’ faces! All the little pricks, soreness, crazy/indecisive cravings, mood swings, etc. all pay off at that moment they see and hold their baby! As a mother of 3, I know what that is like and being able to give a couple that feeling of no one else is around, just you and your baby, is simply amazing and heartfelt. THAT is what is addicting. Surrogacy has fulfilled the void I was missing in my life and it will for you. It was also a wonderful experience for me and my family. It made us all realize the value of helping others through sacrifice and that sacrifice for nine months and a few hours in delivery is a lifetime that you give for another family!! I am so grateful to have become a part of “A Perfect Match”!
For more information about our gestational surrogacy program, please contact Rose@aperfectmatch.com or Darlene@aperfectmatch.com 1-800-264-8828 or 619-464-1424
